We have been in the LS for a years now and have had found some luck (FFM), but are having trouble finding the right person/ people for the next step.

Essentially, I am very open to a full swap, and she is open to it as well, but she has a hard time finding attraction to any of the guys that we meet. In our area there seems to be a heavy skew of couples with fit and attractive women but with men that aren't quite on the same scale.

She loves women, but if she is not attracted to the male, the offer, as delicatly as we put it, for same room fun or letting the girls play while we join our own spouses is then rejected even if they've initially communicated being open to "all of the above".

A) have any couples had this same problem and B) if so, any advice or wisdom to share?

*we openly communicate on our profiles (this reddit is a new one) from the beginning and are likely one of those same couples we are describing, so as per the usual, take our question/ observation with good intent and a shake of salt.

Thank you!