We've been into the lifestyle for more than 5 years now. When we started into foursomes one rule we had was that all four of us must be interacting at the same time.
Five years has gone and we understand matching preferences and desires of 4 people is not easy even with a lot of conversation before going to sex. Chemistry might just not happen when clothes are off so today we have an agreement that if one portion of us is not connected and the other portion is having fun there is not problem to step aside and just watch.
Anyways we can enjoy the fun as a voyeur and exhibitionist roles.
When you find yourselves in this situation is it ok to keep going or do you prefer to stop?