When we started in the lifestyle I (44f) had no interest in dealing with single women. Everyone has heard how hard it is to find single ladies in the lifestyle, and from the stories I've heard they are home wreckers and very needy, expensive, and entitled. And uber flaky about standing people up (i can deal with that one though, i think all the singles suck at making their dates)

I was always suprised at how many single women we would see circulating at house parties (not clubs, those are almost entirely single males), in comparision to the single men. As a rough estimate I would say there are 3 to 5 single women for every single male. I get it's a supply and demand thing, there's probably 10 times as many couples looking for a single woman compared to those looking for a single male, so the ladies are still far more in demand, even with way more of them circulating. And you never see one who isn't being pursued, whereas only the very attractive single males seem to have much game.

Pretty quickly into entering the lifestyle the guys we were hooking up would start bringing dates along for my hubby to hang with. They have all been bi, but never pushed me to engage beyond my comfort level. I have 100% well earned trust in my hubby, so I never really worried about his interactions with these ladies, but I was cautious of their intentions at first. I understand men are all about NSA sex, but I had a hard time picturing women wanting the same thing.

Now that weve been doing this weird singles double dating thing that I think is pretty unique to us, I have totally changed my opinions on the single men and women.

I fucking love the single dudes when they show up. The ones we hang out with repeatedly are always amazing in bed and an adrenaline rush/dopamine high the whole night, but goddamn they are drama. I had initially thought these guys just wanted new unlimited sex adventures, kinda like me and my hubby, but now I'm thinking they kinda like creating a wake of drama as well. I mean you can fuck people and end on a high note. But it seems like most of these guys leave a wake destruction behind them. Im still going after the hot single guys, but my rose colored glasses are shattered.

The single women have all been so sweet. They never push boundaries. Theyve been honest. They never expect anything. It's crazy, they seem to appreciate going on normal dates and just chilling. They've always been really nice to me and never tried to move in on my man like I had worried they would try.

Outta curiosity, for the rest of you peeps that have been with the singles, how were your interactions? I'd say other than the constant stand ups that seem to be somewhat universal, but i guess I can't exclude that part.

Our brightest moments in the lifestyle have always been with singles, either male or female.