This Friday I will be attending my first swing party, organized and hosted by regulars in the LS, with most guests being regulars as well. This is run through the SDC site which I just joined and it’s listed as a Hotwife / Singles Party, with single men / women as well as couples.

I’ve experienced private play with couples and I’ve attended a swing club as single man (like 30 years ago). But this is a first of this type for me, and the guest list is rather large, over 100 people (!) which sounds crazy. Maybe not everyone will show up but let’s assume it’s at least 60-70 people.

I am outgoing, sociable, confident in my looks and body at 56, and have no problem introducing myself and being respectful, knowing how to read boundaries and not assume that any woman there wants to play with me necessarily. I’m not worried about that stuff. If anything I might be too polite but I’m not worried about meeting people.

But I do have some questions for those more experienced:

If I connect with a hotwife and things are going well, is there such a thing as going too long, too slowly (I like sensual foreplay and not just quickie sex), is it rude to her husband to dominate her time if she’s enjoying being with me? Or is that just a basic communication thing and everyone is different?

If I am approached by a single or married woman but I’m not interested in playing with her, is a polite “no thanks” OK? Is there a better, more commonly polite way to say no?

In your experiences, at a house party, are most encounters typically open door where spectators / additional participants enter and leave the room etc? Are there sometimes locked doors for more privacy?

Can I presume that people there won’t be trying to take videos or photos? I would be OK with some of that (nothing with my face being shown) but worried I may be too distracted in pleasure / excitement / other things to notice someone recording the action which would seem to be a violation of trust.

Maybe these are silly questions but just a few of the stuff bouncing around my head. I will report back after the party if people are interested. I think at the worst it will be an interesting life experience!