Yep

My wife has me and many other men when we are with couples. So, I tell her to go for the fantasy when engaging with a SM. She is very picky with them because she can be

Correct. Quality men are desirable

We have struggled w this for almost 3 years and wife is about done w the whole thing because of it.

If you want to be successful as a SM in the Lifestyle, you are going to need to overcome the shyness.

There are a LOT of single men that want to be in the Lifestyle because they watch too much porn and they think that swinging wives are easy. There some great single guys, but the vast majority are pricks that think the wives are somehow dissatisfied with the sex they get and only their magic dick can fulfill them. As far as single women, they can get laid at the local convenience store if they wanted.

Secrets is supposed to stop that. According to their rules, SMs aren’t allowed in there alone. They must be escorted by a female or couple, stay with their escorts at all times. If escorts leave, they must leave as well

Correct. Some SMs do really well because they know what LS is all about. MANY think it’s a brothel in which they pay a small fortune for and expect sex in return. When that doesn’t happen, they tend to not come back

So many of them try to hop into this world thinking it will be easier than vanilla sex. Then they pay a huge price to attend an event and that then comes with the belief that they are gonna get laid now

Paying the huge price just get them in the door

Yeah I hear ya. Vetted out guys by other couples means a lot to us

Seems to be the case

I also don’t like Secrets bullshit policy on SMs in the playroom. They say that all SMs must be escorted in and must stay with their escorts. If escorts leave, they must as well

This obviously doesn’t happen

I agree. I tell my wife to go for the fantasy for SMs. I have noticed that most SMs think that swingers are women who will fuck anything that moves. So these guys pay a huge fee. They don’t know that the huge fee is just to walk through the door. Once inside, they need the same skills to get laid that they would anywhere else

Absolutely! Word of mouth about a SM from a couple goes a long way

Wherever you are from, you may have a different experience when it comes to SMs. Some of them, are great guys! But the vast majority are very unpleasant to deal with.

For me (husband), I just want a nice and humble guy. I guy that doesn’t act like a prick. One that doesn’t think all MFM dynamics are cuckold or that we are pursuing this because I can’t satisfy my wife.

I do have a say in this just like in any interaction. My wife has the same veto power.

My wife isn’t going to be good with just some average guy. With the options for SM, she will be picky

Most swingers are easy going people and if you are at a club or something like that, being a gentleman won’t offend the guy. This isn’t the vanilla world where someone can get jealous if their partner flirts. Most swingers have seen their partner fuck someone else.

Just be a nice guy that respects the husband. Be a guy that he enjoys talking to as well.

For my wife, she wants to know the guy beyond just their physical attributes or performance. She needs to feel attracted to who he is

Yep. Be a good guy that the husband would want to hang out with and look like a guy that a woman fantasies about and they would clean up.