Hey everyone.  Back on reddit after taking a break for awhile.  41m single male in the lifestyle for several years.  Short rant here.

So under the right circumstances and the right vibe, I do enjoy some light MM play with the hubby or boyfriend.  Nothing too wild, things like having the wife/gf rub our dicks together, him lending a helping hand, etc.  But that’s of course only if the other party is into it too and it’s definitely not a dealbreaker for me if they aren’t.  So you’d think the only way for them to know is for me to simply be upfront and share that information, especially when asked.  Something like “not gay or bi but bicurious.  I do enjoy light mm play, especially if it turns her on.”  Unfortunately, I’ve been burned a number of times for that kind of honesty.  I’m not talking “thanks, but no thanks”, I mean straight up ghosting after sometimes weeks of fun and great conversation.  Even the former reaction is odd – just because I happen to be bicurious doesn’t automatically mean I’m gonna reach for the guy’s dick because it’s there, knowing he’s not into it!  It’s the ghosting that I find truly odd. Anyway, I now find myself being strategic as to when to share what information.  I look for key words like “open-minded” as clues that it’s safe to say more.  Which is too bad, but is what it is.