Quick context: my partner and I have been blessed with a pretty amazing group of friends. There's 6 of us and we all get along really well! We've been lucky enough to have some really great hangs with them (sexy and regular) we all click.

My partner never has this problem at home but in a group setting it's difficult for him to 'get going'. We have swapped with these friends but only once or twice, he's ready to go once the rest of them have kind of finished..it leaves me feeling a bit left out. The 4 of them play and flow well, while I'm trying to help my partner get going. (I'm not about to just swap out when he's not ready, of course!!)

In the past I've thrown around the idea of getting him some 'help' in the form of an over the counter solution. He really doesn't want to do that..but I'm also kind of tired of not being able to really connect like the 4 of our friends do..

I'm not sure what to do. Swinging is a wild, complex time 😵‍💫