I, a 40-year-old male, started swinging around the age of 23. I've done it as a single man and in two different relationships. My wife and I met 13 years ago, and we started swinging about five years ago. So far, it has been delightful. We have done MFMF and MFF plenty of times but never MFM.

About eight months ago, I asked her if she would like to try it; she was interested but thought it would be too much of a focus on her. We have discussed it plenty of times and decided to try it. Well, we have found a very nice, respectful guy and plan a date two weeks from now.

Now, here is my problem: my wife is getting very excited and nervous at the same time as the date is approaching. I, on the other hand, am getting anxious and jealous. I’ve never had this feeling before. I’ve done plenty of MFM in my past relationship, so I have no idea why I’m getting such jealous thoughts and anxious feelings. I’m afraid I will ruin it for her, or she will enjoy it so much that she will close the door to other opportunities. I know it would be very selfish to cancel the date. I haven't really told her about how I'm feeling and, in a way, scared to bring it up. If I bring it up, she will probably just cancel, which I don't want. To all the husbands out there, please help. Am I overreacting?