This might be a bit of a read, but bare with me. My partner and I are pretty new to swapping, I’ve been in the lifestyle for about two years, and he is pretty fresh. He also lives out of state, so when we are together our time is pretty valuable. I was in his town this week and we had already been chatting with a younger couple (we are 37f & 40m). We had met them for lunch the other day and ended up playing (his first time & our first time together) we had a wonderful time! To my surprise we ended up matching with another couple who lived very close to my partner, and he wanted to grab drinks pretty quickly. We decided why not, they were both decently attractive and figured no harm. We matched on Feeld and moved our convo to snap. All four of us, light flirting and sending pics. They showed us pics of their house & it was beautiful and in a great area. Last night we had plans to head over to their place around 6:30pm, we had originally planned on meeting at a bar, but they had a hot tub and we just decided it wouldn’t be a bad idea to go to their home. They met us at the door, chatted for a few minutes and we all had a drink. We made our way outside, and the conversation was decent, nothing exciting but also a lot of banter between the other couple (41f & 44m). At one point my partner wanted another drink and the husband said “Julie, why don’t you take him inside & make him another drink” I noticed the slight separation of my partner & I. But figured it gave them a few minutes to talk. The husband & myself were left to chat for a few minutes. The husband had mentioned on feeld that he wanted his wife to have his cock in her ass and my partner fucking her. I told him, maybe at some point, but not right now with us. Side note, my partner & I are allowed to play separately with a couple, after we’ve all played at least once. Well he brought it up again when we were alone. I told him, for now, it’s a no. It’s something we aren’t comfortable with for the moment. He seemed to understand (again for the second time of me telling him). Our partners came back outside and we decided to jump in the hot tub. All naked, my partner and I started making out and I think we both knew this might not happen, the couple was just odd (a lot of boosting and being very much like “look at all of this money I have” he’s also an airline pilot) anyways we kind of whisper that we both don’t want it and I wanted to go home. I get out of the hot tub & he follows. He said he was okay with whatever I wanted, and we both wanted to at least try. We both didn’t listen to our gut and continued. More light playing in the hot tub & then we get out. She is playing with my partner and her husband is watching. I quickly noticed that this had nothing to do with me, but her & two men. I tried to make it work with the husband, but we didn’t even kiss. He tried fucking me but it didn’t work. We both watched them, and the husband kept winking at me. And i couldn’t figure it out…. He got behind his wife and said he was going to fuck her ass, while she was riding my partner. I looked at him and told him no, and he just kept shooting me a weird look like it didn’t matter what I said. I told him nicely… “let them play for a few minutes”… trying to distract myself from what he was trying to do. Again, the husband didn’t even bother trying to please me at all. So a few minutes go by & the husband again said “Julie I am going to fuck your ass” I was sitting in front of him and i got up, moved to the side where my partner was, we made eye contact and he started playing with me. The husband goes to fuck his wifes ass, and i get up and tell him no.. again. My partner immediately gets up and starts getting dressed. I told the husband that we discussed this and could not figure out why he was trying to do something I specifically said no to. I went off and so glad I did. My partner was already dressed while I was highly upset at this man. Trying to flip the script and gaslight me. He looked at me and said “she’s fucking him and I’m not getting anything” and again… i was next to him the entire time! And he didn’t try. He had every opportunity to be with me (and yes we did slightly fool around in the hot tub but he was watching his wife & my partner the entire time and zero attention paid to me) so we grabbed our stuff and walked out the door. I was very upset, the wife ran after us naked, saying she isn’t sure what happened and she was sorry. But there was a lot of clues that really made us feel like, this was their plan the entire time. We should have listened to our gut initially.