After a whole heck of a lot of experimenting, my spouse and I have developed a heavy preference on group sex/foursomes vs separate rooms/beds/roofs.

We’ve done this long enough that we really dont want to bend on that preference too much anymore with couples.

It’s not really something we care about much in soft swapping (we have different standards and expectations for that) but when it comes to piv…separate beds, separate rooms, roofs or the “same bed but stay in your lane” dynamic is just not very satisfying for us and doesn’t leave us in the same enjoyable headspace a foursome does.

Tbh, we’d both prefer a MFM or FMF over “you guys take that bed and we’ll take this one”

It’s that whole “we’re doing this to enhance us as a couple thing” for sure but a BIG part of it is that we just REALLY enjoy quite a few sexual things that require 1 or 2 more people lol.

We do not play separately anymore for the same reasons.

This is also a reason why we aren’t really interested in couples anymore where the woman (at least) isn’t bi. The women not interacting kind of forces the separate vibe during sex (even if we’re right next to each other in bed) and it’s just not what we’re looking for.

I know there’s plenty people like us out there in the lifestyle and I’m curious as to what your experiences have been like when you’ve brought this up with other couples.

Have you had a lot of pushback? Confusion? When/how do you usually bring it up? Is this something you advertise on profiles? any fun stories?