How important is it that you cum or that your partner cums when playing in the LS?

After about 1 year in the LS we can now look back and reflect on various play partners to evaluate our level of enjoyment and or satisfaction in playing with them. Surprisingly, whether a partner can cum is important to us. It's not a hard limit, but there's more appeal and enjoyment when there's completion. Sure, sex with new people is fun, but it's more fun when you are rewarded for your efforts.

Wife is highly orgasmic and can cum with all types of play and its obvious that she is doing so without her over dramaticising the event. Fortunately, even with condoms, I can usually finish if I don't put it off for too long. We are surprised however that this isn't the norm.

What's everyone else's opinion on the matter and experiences?