How important is it that you cum or that your partner cums when playing in the LS?
After about 1 year in the LS we can now look back and reflect on various play partners to evaluate our level of enjoyment and or satisfaction in playing with them. Surprisingly, whether a partner can cum is important to us. It's not a hard limit, but there's more appeal and enjoyment when there's completion. Sure, sex with new people is fun, but it's more fun when you are rewarded for your efforts.
Wife is highly orgasmic and can cum with all types of play and its obvious that she is doing so without her over dramaticising the event. Fortunately, even with condoms, I can usually finish if I don't put it off for too long. We are surprised however that this isn't the norm.
What's everyone else's opinion on the matter and experiences?
So pre play I warn everyone that I'm not gonna orgasm and climax so just focus on me enjoying my time and pleasure and don't try and search for my orgasm and cum cuz that's not happening. Unfortunate side effects of my anxiety meds can be blocked orgasms and I also just have trouble getting out of my head and the more someone tries the more likely I'm getting more frustrated and even less likely to orgasm and definitely not enjoy myself. I'm in the mindset to just enjoy the pleasure and the sanisitations regardless of my outcome. So for those who want for me to finish as their main goal that's not gonna happen. So understanding that about myself I'm able to also when pleasing others I'm able to be fine if I don't make them cum as long as they enjoyed themselves and the pleasures. I think sex in general is far too much end result based
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Exactly I think ppl put too much emphasis and focus on the end goal of orgasm as the only tell to being good time