My husband and I talked about swinging with our neighbors a lot, got the vibes and one night it happened. The men did not touch the others wives and vice versa. It was me and the wife and then husbands with wives. It was fun, we were drinking, it was hot, we all enjoyed it and talked and set some ground rules. Everything was good. Circumstances lined up for it to happen again. I hadn’t shaved and was at the end of my period. Regardless things happened and no one seemed to mind. Took it a little farther this time and swapped doing oral on the wives. Still not oral on each others husbands. I found myself feeling really insecure at the end of the night and felt like crying much of the next day. I explained to my husband that her husband didn’t really seem very into it. Maybe it was the period…. the not shaving… but better I could hear and see my husband kissing all over her body and her moaning and they seemed to be enjoying it. Which was fine except for I felt like I wasn’t being paid the same attention and almost like her husband was touching me out of obligation. Certainly not in a passionate attraction the way my husband was… I talked all of this out with my husband and he finds it hard to believe anyone wouldn’t be attracted to me but different strokes for different folks ya know. I didn’t imagine myself feeling so jealous and unsatisfied but I did… Is this the end? Are we done exploring? I don’t think I can handle another episode if it goes the same way. I did mention the husband that it seemed like our partners were having more fun than we did and responded that he wasn’t sure what he was allowed to do… which I do think my husband came off as being unsure but then once it all went off clearly there weren’t a whole lot of boundaries… and I get that someone can get nervous but if the attraction is there then it’s like the passion just flows right? Shouldn’t it have just been natural for him to be all over me? Any advice is welcome. This is our first time doing this and at first was really exciting but now I’m really not liking all of the feelings I’m having. My husband doesn’t care if we stop, he’s having fun but isn’t totally sure if it’s for him. I’m okay stopping too, seems like the fantasy was better than the reality and I shouldn’t be feeling rejected… but maybe it was the specific circumstances and we have to all get more comfortable? Seems like her and my husband were perfectly comfortable and having a great time so I’m just thinking the husband isn’t that into me… or maybe just isn’t as passionate of a lover even…? Regardless I left disappointed and my OCD is not helping my to move on and I don’t have a clear answer. Just feel rejected and unattractive basically.