I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. We met on a swinger website. He has volunteered to help at parties. I’m not a fan of certain parties that people vape/smoke weed inside so I do not go. He has admitted to doing some sexual acts with a woman at a party I was not at. After that I felt like I had to claim him as mine and force myself to go to parties. Because of this experience I am no longer enjoying the lifestyle so I decided to not be in the lifestyle anymore. We tried to work on our relationship but honestly didn’t really have the time.

Is it cheating when your boyfriend goes to a swinger party and never tells you? (I found out through a friend questioning why I wasn’t there)

Does it make sense to only have swinger friends and to only be able to see them at parties? (This is his reason he gives me to go to parties. I always had a hunch that there is more to it than just seeing friends)

How would you react to your partner telling you that they are going to a couple Halloween swinger parties? (He said that he is going whether I am okay with it or not.)