Hi Reddit,
I have another question, but this time I will write it out like a civilized member of the community. My wife and I are relatively new to the community, but have been around for about 6 months.
We met a couple a few weeks ago, we liked the couple but it was not a 4-way match. We think they are funny, she is really sexy and they have a super slutty vibe, which I love :).
We are now talking with another couple, they are cute, and have great personalities, that remind us of the other couple. They are also newer to the lifestyle. We haven't met them yet, but we think they'd be a good match for the couple we weren't into a few weeks ago. I want to introduce them but feel weird about doing that...
How should my wife and I approach this? Just stay out of it? I want to help people make connections if I can, but I don't know how us swingers do it. Guide me oh great ones of swinging past, present, and future!
Thanks!
We do our best to stay out of the match making business. Instead, if there is ever a situation like this, we will either host an event like a party, beach day, night out for drinks, game night, etc and let things unfold organically, if the chemistry is right. Some of our best swinger friends will never get to cross the line to be partners of ours and will always remain just āfriendsā. Sure these friends have seen us naked at a lifestyle resort, but thats where the line ends. Nothing against them. They are awesome, but we just donāt click on a sexual level. It is what it is. Long story shortā¦ host an event if youāre interested in making the connection, otherwise just enjoy each friendship separately for what they are.
I donāt think any of these people are unattractive, I just think different vibes for different folksā¦ the second couple is still a maybe for us, weāve never met. The first couple was awesome and experienced, just not a good fit for us. Feels weird having to justify. If I thought the dude was irredeemable I would not have thought to make the connectionā¦ either Iām too nice or yāall are sort of assholes.
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I donāt think every person is right for every other person. My cup of tea is different than yours. Just because we donāt want to fuck a person does not mean they are not worthy of being fucked.