My husband and I (34F/32M) met a woman out one night a few months ago. We took her out to dinner and a bar and then back to our house a week later. Since then we have hooked up one other time. We are all in a group chat because I am uncomfortable with my husband and her talking alone. From the first night we met we made it known that this was a FWB thing and that we were not looking for a gf. We are not poly but we are swingers. We know she is seeing/hooking up with other people as well. Well a couple things have happened lately to make me feel like this isn’t going to work.

1. After second time playing she took my husband in the pitch black bathroom while I left the room and kissed him. He made it known that we do everything together and that was not okay. I had left the room and came back in to see this happening.
2. Last Saturday she wanted to hang out with our kids and hers, which is fine, but when the two of them left to grab the cars (my idea) she attempted again to kiss him, which he told her that wasn’t allowed. Again, we do everything together.
3. She asked us “can we have another date night?”. Meaning, will you guys take me to dinner and I’ll come home with you after? We treated her to dinner and drinks a few times since the first time and my gut is thinking now she expects us to pay for everything?
   

We are both looking at this situation from a FWB standpoint and neither of us want to get too close but it seems that may have happened on her end. I’m not sure if she’s just interested in my husband and knows she has to go through me to get there or if I’m being ridiculous. I know Reddit users will let me know. lol. I’m not normally a jealous person or insecure so the way I feel right now is strange to say the least. We have other swinger friends who are couples that I have zero issue with.

Help me sort through this!! <3