Been in the lifestyle for a few years now. We keep hoping to find another local couple where there is that elusive 4 way connection, and that both couples want to all hang out as a foursome every month to every other month.

I'd say we are decent 7's in looks for our age and are socially capable. Kasidie tends to lead to dead ends without a meetup and other lifestyle groups we are apart of either have people too attractive, or are poly (we want to play together), or one person in the other couple does not generate any chemistry for us.

So.... if any of you have found that 4 way connection with another couple similar to you and your partner, what worked in the search? Any other advice?