Been a lurker for a long time and this is my first time posting. Before asking my questions I’ll give ya a little backstory.

My husband and I have been married for 25 years. During that time we’ve had 4 FFM 3somes. We also had another couple that we fooled around with a few times, but mostly just wives kissing/fondling then having sex with our own spouses all together in the same room. 3 of us wanted to do a full swap but the other husband was super uptight and made so many ridiculous rules we finally just called the whole thing off. I also had a MFM 3some once before I met my husband. That’s the extent of our multi partner play.

Our relationship is 100% solid and we are very open and honest with each other about everything. We’re not jealous and we have no insecurities about our commitment to each other. We have a very active healthy sex life and can be pretty adventurous…we’re far from vanilla! I have always fantasized about swinging and really get turned on by the idea of exhibitionism and having people watch us. The problem is that we live in a very small conservative town and we both have very public careers so our options are nonexistent.

After many years of talking about it, we’ve decided to take the plunge! We’ve booked a trip, got our app for the Collette Club approved, and we’re ready to go! But as our trip approaches I’m getting anxiety because I have so many questions! We don’t want to say or do the wrong thing while we’re there. We definitely don’t know all the lingo. I’ve bought all new lingerie, toys, lube, condoms, a BDSM for beginners kit 😂….what else do we need? Do I need to leave any of that stuff at home?

Have any of you been there? I’m 46 and he’s 45, are we so old that no one will be interested? He’s 6 ft, 210 and I’m 5’4, 155. He’s got a little bit of a belly and I’ve got stretch marks, but I’d say we’re both decently attractive people. Are we gonna be walking into a club full of supermodels and pornstars or will we fit in? With us being beginners, will people be willing to play with us or will they avoid us because we’re inexperienced? We’re not nervous about actually participating but we don’t know the “rules” when meeting people and talking about everything.

We’ve talked in depth and don’t have too many stipulations. I assume we’re full swap based on my research but wanna make sure before we go. Our only rules are:

1. No anal

2. No male/male contact

3. He doesn’t wanna give oral & doesn’t want me receiving oral but girl on girl oral and BJ’s are fine.

4. Condoms must be worn

5. We want to stay in the same room

Are these boundaries too stringent that they’ll turn potential couples away? We’re going either way even if we just end up having mind blowing sex with each other, but we really want the full experience! I’m hoping you all will help put my mind at ease and give me some good advice!