For reference, I am a 44F, and I usually find men in their late 30s to be the most sexually attractive, the early 30s just feels a bit too young usually for my taste.

If i hookup with a man 5 years older than me, I dont consider him an older man, i just think of him as someone my age. However my 2 favorite hookups are both males that are 38, and they've both mentioned me as older than them. Not in a derogatory way, more in a sexy cougar way, but i was suprised, because i don't really consider 6 years much of an age difference.

I was wondering if because the more normal thing to see is men with women a few years younger than them, if men start feeling like there is an age gap for what they would consider an older woman with fewer years than moat women consider an age gap with older men.

I've laughed at my hubby about this several times, because he has always loved "older women" in theory, but then when he will talk about and older woman he finds attractive, she's usually actually his age or even a couple of years younger, and he just assumed she was older than him.

Im not talking about at what point you would say no to a woman for being too much older, but at what point would you feel like there was a noticeable age gap that in your head you would consider a woman an "older woman" than you?