We are 2 fwb couples. I've been sexual with both men, but never met the woman. Today we're all meeting up in a cafe for coffee to see each other and get comfortable before we plan the first night together.

We're all experienced with swinging except for one of the guys, so I'm not shy. If we were meeting at a bar at night I'd be less nervous but I'm not sure how to be around her (it has to be a daytime meeting because of scheduling conflicts). I'm a foreigner and we'll be speaking her language, so there's a slight language barrier.

I would like to discuss preferences and maybe even testing but then it really seems like a job interview. I'm trying to relax and go with the flow and just try to get to know her. Despite the awkwardness of the situation it's much more preferable than meeting for the first time at our hookup.

Anyone meetup before like this to get to know the other woman first? Stories? Advice?