As I am allowed to play solo I do understand the desire to not be ghosted or stood up. But as the husband that facilitates my wife’s play I’m firm in making her the priority. She has things she likes and a way she likes to be approached in public. She wants the thrill of spontaneous interaction without the risk of not feeling comfortable. Therefore I vet almost every guy that approaches us when we are out. Yes, it is possible a guy could approach that isn’t vetted or known, but he’s not going to get to play with her in half the time a vetted guy would. Because her comfort and safety is the top priority.

When a guy gets bent or upset she won’t “video chat” for verification or chat with him directly I say I’m sorry and move on. If they are not comfortable that’s cool.

Some guys then try to bully me (for lack of a better term) into letting them do it, with some odd consequences I guess? They then try to explain how she, we or I have missed out. It’s hilarious and sad.

Bottom line. She’s my wife and it’s her rules. If you want to ride the ride, measure up. Otherwise go get ice cream.