So long story short.

Ive been with my partner for 8 years, we have 2 kids together.

I’ve often (M28) fantasised about my partner (26F) being fucked by another man. I like to watch her fuck herself with toys or watch her do it to herself whilst talking about it etc, it’s fair to say I really enjoy the fantasy.

We’ve been much more open lately and she’s expressed how over the last month or so she often thinks about what it would be like to be with another man but she would only feel comfortable doing to in the swingers environment as it’s likeminded people and obviously is also be doing it, so it’s consensual.

However, the more it becomes a reality than a fantasy I’m starting to think maybe I’m not so keen, I feel the relationship is in a great place and although im open to trying it I am absolutely terrified that it will break us, I’m also thinking if we don’t try it she’s already opening admitted to thinking about it and will us not trying suppress her in to going elsewhere anyway.

Help, advice, reassurance welcome, was anybody else in this position before?