Hi everyone, we are new to the lifestyle and have been playing for about two months. We got our first STD testing done and, at the request of a couple that we had plans to play with, my husband got the HSV antibody test done. I did not have the test done because I went to PP and when I asked for it they told me they did not do it as it is not recommended for people who have never had an outbreak. Her exact explanation was that if you test positive but have never had an outbreak there are no recommended actions for you to take and so there is not really a point to it. I got the rest of my testing done and was clean, cool.

My husband went elsewhere and took the HSV blood test and tested positive for HSV-1 antibodies but has never had a cold sore. This sent us down quite the rabbit hole and caused a fair bit of stress but from my understanding, HSV-1 is very common and likely on transmissible during an outbreak? I'm still not sure, really. We told the couple who requested the test our results and they said that when playing with HSV ppl they have a rule that they have to take valtrex 5 days before hooking up. We have a friend who is a GP and asked him for a prescription and he said he doesn't prescribe valtrex without past or current outbreaks, and it would be hard for us to find a doctor who would.

We have accepted that this couple probably won't be comfortable playing with us, which is totally fine, but we are not sure if this is something that we should disclose to all future play partners? Should we also tell the people we have played with in the past? I didn't do the test but I assume that if I had I would have popped positive too. Just not really sure what to do here so any suggestions or feedback would be appreciated. Thanks!