My husband and I are looking for a woman (or female couple) to get to know and see if there would be mutual interest in having fun together. The fantasy and hope is the hubby wants to watch, and occasionally be a participant in, a woman (or women) dominating the wife.

We enjoy some bdsm, and interested in learning/doing more.

This is not a casual one-off hookup, ideally. We want to ensure the match is right, feels right/makes sense, and that all safety measures are taken. There will be conversations on boundaries, kinks, etc, and fully welcome any other pieces you see to fit.

We have not done this before, so we are not looking to rush anything, and need to ensure everyone is comfortable with whatever direction it goes.

We'd rather find someone to connect on some level and have a sexual path that can progress to more adventurous with trust, but we are not looking to add a third into the marriage or for love.

We're on a few apps/sites but it seems the profiles for local are slim, and rarely a woman looking for a woman and possibly the man as well and being ok if he watches/partakes.

Also, what tips do you wish you knew in advance? We've done some research etc but would be nice to hear first hand thoughts.