One problem I/we have is that some dude posting the same tired post and requesting "submissive sluts" is such an appeal within the community, but I do realize that most of reddit is just dudes pretending or trying to cheat, so I get it to a point. Another problem I was asking for help with was engagement with real couples and was asking if I should trust low levels of karma.

And yes we are trying to meet people to possibly fuck, but we are still finding our groove and we don't want to lead anyone on. We don't care so much about the upvotes, as much as we do engaging with real local couples that we may click with.

I'm a bit confused as to why you were moved to give me negative comments?

Thank you and right back at ya!

Thank you for your kind response. And yes SLS is where we started, but the experience has been lackluster... We did find a few couples and it at least gives us updates on parties/clubs but we don't use it much anymore

Look I enjoy being dominant, but I don't need to announce it in such a classless way. I guess I care because general cockiness and alpha male type behaviour pisses us (mostly me) off, especially when it's rewarded. There are bigger fish to fry and it is fairly petty of me (hence why I tried to make light of it in my post by admitting I was "jealous"), but it is disheartening to see douchebags "winning" with minimal effort...

By the way what is up with a lot of these aggressive/passive aggressive responses? I know it's reddit and people love to argue on here, but your oddly angry tone towards me confuses me... I was certainly not trying to antagonize or harm anyone and have already had people jumping on me, so what is the drive to continue to poke?

And the term "engagement" was not meant to only allude to upvotes.

Also read my other comments, as much of what you are asking me I have answered in other comments.

Sorry that happened. Definitely a big risk with reddit

We have full swapped, we just would prefer to build a rapport, as we are still very new, which I am told most swingers are understanding of... Also my fiance is extremely selective in the full swap department. I wouldn't say we require attention on reddit (I do love when she gets attention, because she's gorgeous and doesn't believe she is at times), past enticing real couples to message and meet us. We would do clubs over fishing on any site, if we had any decent clubs within two or even three hours of us... We are in a dead zone. That is why we do travel for parties and typically have a better time there, but we are hoping to find locals for more consistent play.

Haha sounds about right. Have to wonder if that ever works for them. Also, most likely, if it did I'm sure they would be the type of guy that says "This never happens to me"

Haha that's too funny, I'm glad someone else has noticed that! And yea I'm sure most of them just said "hey" or "heyyyy"... My favorite recent one was just a "👀👀👀" as an opener

I appreciate the perspective and write up!

Thank you for the insightful response!

"We like to build a rapport", means we are open to swapping, but we would like to get to know you first and have maybe a few play sessions. We have only full swapped once, but we are only about eight months into our journey...