I read posts that say something to the effect of, “Yeah, you could be very successful with swinging if you have no standards!” What does that even mean? I would like to assume most people have a bare minimum standard. It seems like something someone would say who is not getting what they want in this lifestyle and that’s their excuse for why. My boyfriend and I are successful in the lifestyle and we have standards. We want play partners who are fun to banter with over text and in person, sober when playing, communicative about their boundaries, respectful of their partner, and safe. We are attracted to a wide variety of people, but would not accept slovenliness or poor hygiene.

What is your “standard”? What does that mean to you?