This is something we hear now all the time from other couples, and since we are before our first meeting I am overthinking it.

So you sit in a bar, and let's say you kind of enjoy, and there is the moment someone ask if we want to go to their flat together.

I can't find a way to wrap my mind around this, because me and my partner should be at the same page with our "public" respond, without having private space to talk.

Say my gf is so excited and she looks at me and say yes, and I don't want - I can say that "I am tired" - but basically I said that I don't like the other woman, embarrassed her and myself, and ruin their party.

Basically even if we both don't like them, or not feel ready yet, there must be a moment where we have to agree/disagree together without having time for a private conversation in front of the other couple at the bar. We can't just ask them to excuse for the toilet.

Assume we don't have time for next date, and a decision has to be made same evening, whats the right dynamics ?