Thank you everyone for the support and kind words on that post.
I got an STI test and it came back negative. I never had signs of symptoms of anything in the meantime.
I did not file police charges. I know people consider stealthing akin to rape. While I did feel violated and furious, I knew that with the parameters of the situation, law enforcement where i live was not going to take me seriously. I also did not want to drag the club’s name through the mud or compromise my personal information.
I’m definitely changing how i play. I had a false sense of security bc every guy I’ve interacted with in the LS and kink community has been respectful of boundaries and communicative. I was not discerning of who I was having sex with in group situations for this reason, going on the assumption someone else probably vetted him, it’s cool. Nope, never again! It’s not foolproof but it will make me feel better.
Still swinging and having a blast doing it, but will only be playing with our group of established play partners for now. We have established relationships with 2 single ladies, 2 single guys, and 4 couples that we can call on. That’s honestly plenty! No need to look really.
That was a different stealthing post. 😞
This is not my expectation that it is common bc if it was, I wouldn’t play. I do accept it is a risk in this lifestyle and i will prepare myself to reduce the risk as much as possible.
Oh no! That sucks you were judged so harshly! I’m a shameless hoe (☺️) but even hoes have the right to say no and have boundaries be honored.
We have made many friends at the one we go to and I’ll stick to playing with only friends we’ve made. If we go to a new club, no group play, same room, soft swap only!
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Yes. We’ve been back to the club since it happened. Management and security remembered us and checked on us and the guy was banned.