My partner and I have talked and fantasized a lot about wanting to explore swinging. I’m also bisexual and fantasize about being with a girl constantly. However, when it comes down to actually trying to do it, I become really anxious especially because I know my bf has some fantasies I can’t fulfill leading to feelings of not being “good enough.” How do yall deal with the anxiety of swinging? I know the answer is probably to slow down but How did you ease into the lifestyle in a way that didn’t trigger the anxiety? What is the least triggering way of swinging for you? And how do you even find people to swing with in a very chill and non anxiety inducing way? (We are located in LA if that helps!) for reference, we tried dating apps and it just stressed me out. I want to start off very slowly and set boundaries with my partner. But he can become defensive and think I’m shutting him down completely or shaming him. So how do yall communicate those boundaries and respect those boundaries especially when what you’re ready for does not align with what your partner is ready for?