I (32m late diagnosed autistic this year) met my partner (also autistic) early this year and they're experienced with swinging. I'm not nearly as sexually experienced as them when it comes to sex as I spent all of my 20s married in a closed relationship that was also my first relationship. But I've been doing more casual exploring solo this year and my partner has been really supportive with that. I had previously told them I wasn't interested in joining them at swingers parties as it seemed anxiety inducing more than anything but they were recently invited to one their main swinging couple is hosting and half jokingly invited me and was surprised and excited when I didn't immediately say no. I've had some more recent casual sexual experiences that have made me a little more comfortable with casual sex so I asked a bunch of questions about what goes on at these events, talked about my comfort level and the anxiety I was experiencing even considering it and she was super sweet and supportive answering my questions and telling me how excited she is that I might be interested and that if I went and felt uncomfortable we could simply leave.

Turns out I have a date scheduled for that same night already, so I can't go anyways. But I expressed interest in maybe exploring it another time. My partner suggested we just go out to eat and I meet them.

I'm very curious to hear about other autistic men's (or socially anxious men's) experiences swinging, especially if you struggle with social anxiety as well like me. I've learned to handle my social anxiety largely but not entirely and new situations like this can trigger it. I'm also still in the process of learning to fully love my body, so I'm still just a bit self conscious about showing it off to people.