Your BF doesn’t sound like he’s worried about your feelings. That’s not going to work in a LS relationship which requires both partners to be even more thoughtful and considerate than a traditional relationship. When my husband and I met, he had been in the LS already with his ex-wife and he’d had about 10x the sexual partners I’d had. So you know what he did? Moved at my pace. He was excited to up my numbers and found situations I’d like. He never talks about past experiences unless I ask him directly or he thinks it’ll help. I never feel anything but enthusiasm from him. That’s the way it should be. I can’t imagine a bigger turn off than feeling like I was just doing the same ol’ boring thing. Honestly, it sounds like he’s just using you as a partner so he isn’t another single guy at the Swingers parties.

In all seriousness, he does not seem to be about your pleasure. That’s not going to work long term regardless of experience. We were in a similar scenario as far as experience and one of the things that really helped was one of my previous LS female friend really leaning in and connecting with my partner where they could talk about all the things and be a sounding board.