I wrote this out as a comment but the account was deleted so I thought I would just share my experience and the modest success I've had.

You can have success. But you need to stand out in some way.

You are a guest. Be polite. Contribute snacks. Bring something for the host, assuming it's a house party. A small bottle of scotch is a good choice.

What's worked for me is that I enjoy MFM, but respect straight guys. Can perform in front of people and don't cum at the beginning of a party.

I encourage women to communicate what's not working so we can enjoy our time together.

Don't show up to just play with the youngest woman in the room. Make time for everyone who would like to play with you.

Don't be aggressive. Let women be curious and ask you to join them.

ALWAYS ask permission before you touch a woman.

Don't overstay your welcome. You should never be the last person to leave a party.