I posted this a couple days ago on an alt account but karma restrictions made me say screw it and post on my main.

I'm excited about the prospect of swinging with my wife in the future.

My (39F) wife and I (40M) have talked about the idea of getting into swinging in the past. Nothing too serious or concrete just the idea of it and talking about fantasies. There hasn't been a hard NO so there's a chance :D

Right now I believe her main hang-ups are just the fact that we have two younger children and finding time for ourselves is challenging at the least. I would absolutely love to see her get the attention of other men who find her as sexy as I do. My interest in the LS has grown from a mild curiosity to straight up fantasizing about dipping in, starting with maybe attending a club event as newbies and getting a feel for the atmosphere and mingling (haven't been in the flirting world in over a decade, I'm rusty as hell). Ultimately all of my fantasies revolve around swapping partners for parallel play (soft-swap has been the primary just because right now it is in the realm of possibility), Just the idea of being with another woman in the same room as my wife and another man turns me on and cranks me up to 11. Looking over at my wife as she is being undressed, touched, caressed, groped, fingered, eaten, blowing, sucking, moaning. Watching another man put in the effort to try to make her cum and seeing her, knowing she is trying to finish him off and at the same time prolong the experience as long as possible all while I get to focus on the other woman giving her the care and respect she deserves as I get to share the experience and pleasure with her as my wife gives me a reassuring smile and nod of approval.

We have played with MFM in the past when we were early into our relationship (at my request) and the biggest turn on for me was the seduction of the other man. Inviting him over for drinks and conversation and slowly moving the evening in a more sexually charged direction. Going from a simple conversation into a close hug. Kissing my partner on the couch deep and passionately while exposing her less and less subtly in his direction across the room. Lifting up her shirt and exposing her tits while she sat on my lap completely exposed and spread squared up with him holding eye contact. Leaving the room for a cigarette in the hopes that his primal urges would take over and she would be sucking his cock by the time I returned (didn't happen, he was nervous as hell and she was very respectful and wanted me there from start to finish). This was a fantasy coming to life before my eyes.

Taking it to the bedroom comes in second for me in the turn on department only because there was no question of if this was going to happen or not. There was no longer a mystery as to what was going to happen in the immediate future, only the question of how we would feel after. The foreplay was amazing, we both focused our attention to her. Kissing her while another man fingered her and ate her out was intoxicating. Watching her suck and stroke him was something I had to just sit back and take in for a few minutes, I wanted to remember this experience. 20 minutes of foreplay later and then it happened, she mounted him and rode him to finish in a matter of minutes. Watching her ride him the same way she rides me, the moaning and rhythmic breathing as she allowed him to finish inside of her (no condom, he was going through a divorce and had been checked out a couple months prior and we were clean as well). Watching another man cum inside my partner had me so turned on, I had never been as hard in my entire life as I was just before it was my turn. I came fast just from the excitement alone. Thankfully after the encounter there were no feelings of guilt or remorse. I had no feelings of jealousy or anxiety about what we had done. I still look back on it as a fond memory.

When my wife then-girlfriend and I got together she was my first and has been my only. I'm very happy with our relationship as a whole. I just feel like different could be a LOT of fun for both of us. I just don't really know how to get past the fantasy stage and move into the "hey lets really talk about this" and really consider it. I don't want to push nor will I. I also have no idea how to bring it up and talk about it without coming off as unsatisfied in our sex life (which I am not at all). I love her, she is my person and the last thing I would ever want is to cause insecurity. My attraction to her has only grown over the years.

I don't know if this is a seeking advice post or if I'm just looking for stories about how and when others have brought it up with their partners and how it went. I would love to hear about how it felt to ask and be asked to consider it. Thank you all for reading this wall of text, I appreciate your time and experience.