Me & my girl have been together for some years, things in bed aren't how they used to be. We agreed to inviting a third party & we'd only engage when together at home.

I found a tantric healer on Reddit and checked his socials, everything checked out. He offered tantric and yoni sessions. We'd invited him to our house, he brought his table, towels, oils and 2 toys. He was handsome and worked on my girl, he kept it professional but we enjoyed it.

He was handsome so my girl wanted more, so the following weekend I messaged him asking for more than the hand massages, he declined.

My girl still enjoyed the body and yoni session so we booked him again, I watched while he worked on her and we chitchatted, she enjoyed it which is what mattered. It was just a hand massage so I personally wasn't into it.

I work from home, my girlfriend doesn't work. My girl asked to get a massage from this healer during my work hours while I'm in zoom calls.

She said she'd leave the door unlocked. While we'd agreed to always be together when a third person is invited, I figured this wasn't a big deal as this healer had strict boundaries.

For the next few months she's getting short massages while I'm working in the next room, no big deal. I personally didn't care to be involved to see her get a hand bodyrub.

I thought nothing of it until a few weeks ago I took a restroom break and tried to check in during one of their sessions, and the door was locked. After knocking he opened the door, she was on the table he was clothed so all seemed normal. I thought nothing of it but it bothered me that the door was locked.

That night, while my girl was asleep I checked her phone and found no texts with the masseur, not even confirming apt which makes me think she deleted them.

I took action. I have a window near the balcony looking in our room, I set the curtains so I could see through them slightly for the next session.

About a week later, while I was working the masseur visited, said hi and went with my girl to the next room, closed door.

I waited about 10 minutes before going to the balcony to peek through the window. What I saw was the masseur sitting at the edge of the bed, while my girl was at the edge of the table with her legs wide open, and his face was pressed in between her legs. After that I rushed in and caused a scene, the masseur left.

When i came to my wits she said he opened up to more, which is what we wanted, but she didn't want to bother me while I was at work. She promised he only gave her oral for the yoni session and said it wasn't a big deal.

Days later I messaged the healer about it, he sent screen shots of text messages from my girl number telling him we'd only continue to book with him if he ''at least'' gave her oral, this was MONTHS ago.

We did originally ask for more, and I was ok with her getting a session in the room next door while I work, BUT I did not know he would agree to doing more.

How do I handle this?