Vets of this forum know I'm not going to get through to the ones who need it, but I'm motivated to post after reading the last version of this post.

One way to tell if its important in swinging is to think "is it important not in swinging", that will solve a vast majority of the question. Swingers are just people, and mostly normal people in that most will just look and act like anyone else.

So "my penis is this big, will it be a problem?".

Was it a problem when you were dating? If the answer is no, then no it won't be a problem. Does it mean it will never be a problem? No, but nothing in sex is always and never, if you've been on the internet long enough you've seen some weird shit, someone is into THAT or turned off by it. THAT can literally be anything.

Also am I too fat? Well how do people react to you in dating about it? Some will be turned off some will not care, some will be turned on by it. Think about your body type, ask if you are attracted to the same body type. If the answer is yes, well then at least SOME will be into you, if the answer is no, welcome to where I was in the late 2010's, I lost it. But despite me not even liking my own body type, I still found a good number of women who were at the very least, ok enough with it to swing with me.

Age fits here mostly too, though I'll admit its more trickey in swinging. Still you won't be too old for everyone or too young. Most swingers are 40-50 but range from 80's to 18.

Same applies to any other aspect.

You might find more people if you are a certain way. Is anyone surprised that the the guy who looks like Adonis and has a 7.5 inch penis gets more attention than the dad bod, half balding, cargo short and sneakers at a club guy? No, but even that guy isn't a lost cause just the way he is.

So no you don't need to have a perfect cock. You don't need to have a perfect body. You don't need to be outgoing. You don't need to be anything. Just like vanilla life, the more universally appealing you are the more you will appeal to, but did anyone expect anything different.

(Note the above doesn't apply to single men or single women quite the same, single men tend to need to be better than average to do well, single women can be the opposite, but just like vanilla life this is supply and demand. If suddenly the sites were filled with 100's of women just begging for a chance to ride on married men, you'd see a shift there, and also wonder why the devil is shivering).