Lesson learned. We knew and had talked to for a while or played with every other couple in there. He’s was playing with a couple we knew. I didn’t even talk to the guy before going at it, and that’s something I usually don’t do which is why I feel like a 🤡.

It’s not illegal in my state. I think CA is the only state it is illegal.

Absolutely I am. My tubes are tied some I’m glad that isn’t something i have to worry about.

Every guy we talked to including security and club management said that a guy can absolutely tell when a condom comes off. Unfortunately, for women, we can’t 😔.

I’m praying that was the case, but two other guys in the room said they didn’t notice him wearing a condom when he pulled out either. Also, if he took it off after, the condom wouldn’t have been under me.

Thank you for the supportive words. I’m okay, and i know this was all on him. I beat myself up though for not protecting myself better.

I know I accepted the risk when I agreed to participate in this lifestyle. I am not asking for pity. I’m telling a story of a negative experience as something that COULD happen to others and as a reminder to be diligent in interactions.

I found out from the couple that played with him prior to me that the guy was married. His wife lets him do his thing. She was not in the room participating. In the future, I am aware of how I will move differently based on this lesson. My partner has learned from this as well.

The rest of your comment, I will not dignify with a response.

We’ve had nothing but great experiences. This was the first negative after a year in and it makes me want to press pause, reduce how often we play, go to soft swap only, and only play with people we know.

I’m so sorry that happened to her!

Nothing tipped me off. If I felt I couldn’t trust him, I wouldn’t have had sex with him. I think bc every other guy in the LS I have met was respectful and honest and went out of the way to prove they weren’t dishonest creeps, I had this false sense all guys would be like that.

Usually, we only deal with couples. My boyfriend and I talk to both people and conversations are had about safety. This was a big group play thing, I got carried away. He was playing with a couple we have played with before so I assumed they vetted him. He and I gravitated towards each other in the course of things and I saw him put the condom on so I didn’t think there would be anything to worry about. If my boyfriend hadn’t noticed, i wouldn’t have known. Group sex gets chaotic.

In my future, there will be no guys playing solo and no kind of sex with anyone we haven’t spoken to prior to entering the group play.

Honestly the fact that every other guy I’ve ever played with has been nothing but honest, respectful, and concerned with his own physical well being gave me a false sense of security.

I’m hoping my boyfriend was mistaken. He is adamant though that he watched the guy pull out of me and was not wearing the condom.

He was part of a couple, but his wife doesn’t play and was not in the room so he was playing solo.