So my girlfriend and I aren't necessarily in this lifestyle but we do go to Caliente Resort and enjoy having sex in front of others as well as watching others play. While talking about the lifestyle with her, she says she enjoys the atmosphere and being in the sexually charged environment (while in the playrooms with others) but she would never be interested in sharing me. Which is fine, because so far I'm pretty much the same way.

However, recently a fantasy of mine has popped in my head, where she would be giving me oral while simultaneously giving another guy a handjob. Not sure why the thought of this turns me on...maybe I just like the idea of seeing her handle two cocks at once. But that's as far as it goes. I think her giving another guy oral or him fucking her would be too far and bring about feelings of jealousy.

My question is, how common would it be to find a single male that would be interested in participating? Ideally I would rather have a guy from a couple, but I feel like this would leave his partner out and she wouldn't be getting anything out of it. So I'm guessing a single male would be our best option, but I'm just worried it would be hard to find a guy that isn't pushy, and realizes that the only thing on the table is a handjob.

I'm also wondering if I'm having these thoughts, could this be the start of me wanting more down the road? As of right now even a soft swap doesn't interest me, because of feelings of jealousy. Maybe with more experience I'd get over those feelings and want more?