Im 23F and have been a unicorn with four couples over the past year. It started out as just something I wanted to experience once as I had just moved out and it was always on my bucket list. I grew to love it and kept wanting more.

At first my search came me easy as I found a lot of new couples around me, my first being found on Reddit and the rest on feeld. But eventually it obviously started getting harder for me to find and retain one once I find one who checks all of my boxes.

Lately I feel like I’m in a cycle, i find a couple I click with, we go on a few dates along with playing a few times, then either go ghost or something happens with them. The first ones who were married were too far and kept wanting me to drive to them ( over an hour drive) plus the husband started acting weird

The second who were in a long term relationship would always initiate and invite me over but after a few times after they initiated they started canceling plans last minute with no explanation, one this happened a third time I cut them off because I felt they didn’t value my time

The third couple I only spoke with the wife who solely wanted to do all the communication because she claim she wore the pants in the relationship. This one started out fine since I saw and spoke to the husband on dates but I later found out she only wanted to do this as a last resort to save her marriage because her husband was emotionally cheating on her and she thought it would make them closer, which was my mistake for not keeping my boundary of making a group chat so I know everyone was all on the same page

And the most recent couple also started out great especially when I shared I was hesitant because of the last couple. They live two hours away but were willing to travel. They came to me first and the second time I drove to them. Despite both dates and play times going well according to them it seems like they’re getting dry with our group chat. One of them will initiate conversation but stop replying after a few messages. And it’s not like I’m being needy I work 6 days a week so I’m a busy girl but we all agreed on something ongoing and I was hoping to play at least 1-2 times a month. My friends think they probably just have relationship issues going on especially with kids and stuff but I don’t like that they will initiate contact with nothing coming of it

Am I expecting too much? Every couple I match with I let them know I’m looking for something long term and on a consistent basis and I let them know my boundaries and we move accordingly. I don’t expect to message everyday but once or twice a month I’d like to catch up and make plans. I do like getting treated to dates every so often but it’s not needed every time. My girl friends think I should be stricter and charge so my time isn’t wasted but I don’t want to feel like a hooker.

I’m currently not looking for a relationship and I love the dynamic of being with a couple as I’m bisexual and get to have both at the same time. Any insight would help