So my wife (30F) and myself (31M) are very curious and talking a lot about trying new experiences but we feel hopeless with where to begin.

We’ve been married for 8 years and have always had a phenomenal sex life. We’ve danced around ideas in the past with threesomes but never seriously considered them.

Tonight, we talked about parallel play and both got pretty excited. This lead to discussions about a MFM, and kind of exploring from there. We both definitely feel like parallel play is where we are comfortable starting.

Sadly, the chat ends with both of us feeling like we’d love to explore, but doubtful it could happen. We live in a very small area with a pretty small population and honestly, we don’t know if we feel comfortable staying very local. We aren’t sure of how we would meet people - are apps the way to go? Do we try and find a club?

From some researching, the nearest club is about 2-1/2-3 hours away. Do couples usually travel that far or is that out of the ordinary?

Historically we’re not very vanilla, and have gotten more involved with BDSM and role play. Again - is that common or should we expect to dial things back?

Do you use your real names?

We do have a couple we know personally, where my wife and her have been friends for 10 years. We are tip toeing around the idea of asking them their thoughts - but again - aren’t really sure of how to - if anyone has any advice?

Sorry for the long post but we are eternal beginners and just truly don’t know if this is a fantasy for us, or what it takes to make reality.

Thanks!