Good day, My GF(35F) & I (36M) are newer to the LS but not new to outside relationships. We have been poly for years and just started exploring this. We joined a local LS group's page and then was invited to a smaller group by some members after our first MNG. Great, we thought we are really getting into this and will be able to trade partners pretty quick. Our motivations to get onto swinging were friends and sex. We had been pretty isolated in our friends and really wanted to have friends that matched our mindset on sex. Like friends you can chat with, play boardgames with, then have sex. We have yet to have a swap. We are almost 3 months in, been to a lot of MNGs, even went to a few house parties and no one has elected to swap with us. Everyone, at the house party especially, was very cliche. Everyone stuck with their group of friends and it felt like high school trying to walk up to a group and start a conversation, which we did. We saw plenty of tits and ass. Other people were having sex in the open which we watched and enjoyed the hell out of. We ourselves went ahead a put a show. After every event we reach out to couples and reintroduce ourselves and try to chat with them through messages, but it always falls flat3-5 days in. It seems like this group doesn't want to have sex with other people. That's the vibe we are getting. We just thought swinging was casual sex with a group of like minded people. Am we wrong for assuming this? Can we get a little clarification or insight. Any discussion is welcome.