I am the husband of a m/f same room / full swap couple, writing this post.

Wife and I started swinging. We are on SLS and SDC.

We state online that we play only as a couple, same room.

There’s an experienced lifestyle couple we were playing with. We have been having a good time at it.

I’ve had a very specific conversation, in the recent past, with the husband in this couple in which I discussed my disappointment at people trying to get around me to get at my wife.

The wife of that couple contacted my wife outside of the 4-way group chat we typically used. It was their wife messaging to my wife:

“We just had a play date bail on us, a unicorn woman. This is a long standing fantasy we have. Care to come over, just you, and fill in for her (No offense to your husband)?”

Is this kind of contact and the offer poor they made form or poor etiquette in swing culture?