Hi,

My partner and I are fairly new to swinging, having started this year and only having full swapped a handful of times.

One new situation I faced was when chatting to another couple. The couple in question seemed to pay next to no attention to me (M). All of the questions, talking and conversation flow was via my partner (F) to a point whereby I was essentially left out (which is rare, as I am fairly chatty).

The couple in question seemed keen enough to progress, but at this point I felt like they didnt even really want me to be there and were just putting up with me to be with my partner, so I pulled the plug and we headed to another area of the party.

I was wondering if this sort of situation is common? Is this a case of just sucking it up and dealing with it? In your experience, does it often happen when a a couple isn't attracted to one of the other members of a couple they're chatting to ? Is pulling the plug the best idea here or should I have just gone along with it and put how I felt to the side?

Im unsure if this was in my head or not, or if it even matters. Would appreciate any advice.

FWIW: my partner and I are both fairly good looking and have both had good success outside of our relationship when it came to dating. I am in good shape (as is she) and I personally wouldn't describe myself as bad looking.