Hi, im looking for advice to process, yes, i communicate with my wife.

My wife is asexual (but sex positive) so since we started dating she always said she'd be fine with me finding other girls, I appreciated the offer but never really did anything with it until 6 years in, we have sex regularly so i didn't feel like I was missing out or anything. I love her dearly but I just thought it would be fun to mix things up, if she was still fine with it. I did want her to be there though.

We had a threesome with one girl which was fun enough, my wife was very enthusiastic and supportive.

I thought, she deserves to join in a little bit more though, so i looked into actual swinging/ a foursome.

we found a couple, but when we were there things panned out differently. the other woman had just had a medical procedure because of which she couldn't have penetrative sex. we were told this when we were already at their place and everything ready to go. A bit annoyed, I still figured why not continue, after all, it was more about giving her the same experience I had too. the other woman was still able to participate with other things, but my wife became the main focus.

we both had rounds with her, and in the moment is was fun. afterwards though, I keep feeling empty seeing her having sex with someone else. She has been extremely supportive and we decided we won't do anything like it again, but I don't know how to shake this feeling, it's irrational but every time I think about it and I want to beat the other guy up. I don't know how to shake this feeling, it's pure jealousy I understand, but that doesn't make it easier.