I know these types of questions come up fairly regularly and I know the answer is often “communication is key” but I think I may have a unique enough angle to start a discussion here.

Saying my prayers that the responses don’t just focus on “mansplaining” the historical reasons why people often don’t accept male/male play as part of our lifestyle. We hear that stuff all the time and reject it is outmoded anachronistic thinking. So is there some reason other than fear of disease that the lifestyle seems to ignore or reject bisexual men?

Some specific questions for the friendly folks:

First, with respect to resorts - how does it work at the resorts? Quiet convos and take the bi play out of public view? which lifestyle places are more friendly to m/m bi play? We understand the culture is not yet ready to fully embrace male bisexuality so we can accept that a measure of discretion would be expected, but we don’t want to spend money going to a place that ignores the hypocrisy and actively shuns m/m play.

Second, same questions with respect to local clubs. Where are the queer friendly places? We prefer the company of inclusive people and would travel to be a part of something like that.

Third, couples profiles: do you interpret the label “bi curious” for the guy to mean that he is actually bi or that he basically just wants to play with the wife and might jiggle a ball or something?