Hi All,

We’re a little torn on this situation and would love some input from the community.

There’s a couple that we have hung out with a few times and hooked up with once. After the hookup they said that the physical attraction wasn’t there for them but they wanted to stay friends. This wasn’t heartbreaking or a huge surprise to us. They’re a decade younger, and perfect 10’s. We’re older and let’s say 7’s on a good day.

On the night of the hookup we mentioned that we were planning an LS party and asked if they were interested in going. They seemed super excited about it and said that they would love to go. After the hookup we continued to phone chat with them and it was a couple weeks later when we tried to plan another meet up when they mentioned that they weren’t interested in another play date but would like to continue platonically.

Our texting conversations with them have thinned but continued, mostly just cordial pleasantries. But, this weekend they asked if we were still planning a party. We confirmed that we were but did not extend the invite or share the dates. The conversation ended at that. They may have been expressing interest in going, or they may have just been making small talk because they knew it was something we were planning.

So, do we invite them?

We think that they would be a great addition to the group. They would definitely be interested in some of our other friends and visa versa. We’re also all for community building and love introducing our friends to others. But it just feels a bit weird inviting a couple to our party that we know aren’t interested in us. Is that selfish thinking or just rational?

What do you all think?