My partner and I talk about it all the time and one time drinking with "swinger" friends it almost happened but the other guy was the problem. As one lady in here said "With newbies, I know I will have to make a move else nothing will happen." I'm ready, but I'm not trying to force it upon my partner if 18 years. How did you get started?

I was looking at just going to "Secrets" but it seemed over the top. Caliente seems less "fucky" more "nudist" and the wife seems ok with it. If she thinks I want to go just to fuck it will be the deal breaker. I told her I want to go to chill, and drink in an adult pool with no kids. All true. She said "If someone comes up to us, neither of us have the will to say no, and might put us in a aqward position."

100% with the right couple, a few drinks, and a requirement for a 7" plus dick on him ;P ... This could happen.

How did everyone navigate their first time? What did you do leading up if your partner seemed hesitant? Her words... "I like the idea of not having rules in life."

And last ... Thoughts on Caliente or other resorts?