• I first started in 2020 and joined my first couple for an MFM. I met them on Feeld and they were surprisingly super fit/attractive couple…so much so I thought it was a scam. We met up a total of 3 times and it was a lot of fun with no issues. Although there was this one moment when the dude said, “yeah fuck that BBC.” It threw me off because my dick is absolutely normal. Their main reason for swinging was to do DP and so that’s what we did most of the time.

• Second couple I also met from Feeld. They were more of a cuckold dynamic and while I’m not really into that much, I still had fun and had no complaints. They wanted to try DP as well, but with no success. The dude sent his GF over to my place 1 on 1 for the ‘cuckold’ experience which was cool, but that was the last time I saw them before they ghosted me.

• Third couple reached out to me from Reddit. The husband wanted me to go on a ‘date’ with the woman by herself. I didn’t actually know what she looked like beforehand, but when we met up at the bar she was a bombshell out of a 90s movie or something. I’m this short 5’8 black guy with an average dick. We had a good ‘date’ and they invited me over the following week.

• The last couple I met at a bar. I was trying to flirt with this woman who seemed to be by herself, but then I realized she was married. The dude was about 50 and she told me she just turned 31. Weird paring, but this was actually my favorite couple. I only slept with his wife once, but we really fucking hit it off. They eventually invited me over to their house and we continued to be completely platonic friends all of 2021-present. They are partiers and threw a lot of neighborhood parties like new years, Halloween, Super Bowl etc. it was crazy and I kinda met there whole family and social circles lmao. Some of her friends knew I slept with her, some not a clue and a lot of them would always ask, “so how do you know Jordan.”

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Basically the entire point of this post is that the lifestyle for swingers, non-monogamous folks and couples just looking to spice up their bedroom life come in all different flavors. Single guys think they need to have a massive dick, be a fitness model or 6ft tall…but that’s just not the case. Sure some couples look for that but the ones I met up with didn’t care. Some are just looking for a chill dude to hangout with.

Just be fucking normal, you are essentially dating the couple. Treat them just as you normally would anyone else you were dating, with respect. Don’t turn everything sexual right away. In fact the couples who skip straight to being sexual I pass on.

For me personally I’m not really into orgies or lifestyle clubs (still never been to one), but I definitely would love to try group sex with multiple people at some point. The only thing I heavily DISLIKE about this lifestyle is all the fetishizing. The term “BBC” makes me sick 🤢 and you have to weed out all that bullshit to find normal people who actually want you as a person.