Would like to know if there is a name for this or an easier way to describe it. Basically, full swap, but taking turns. Wife 1 with Husband 2. Husband 1 stays completely engaged in everything the entire time. Kissing, whispering sexy talk to the wife, playing with her tits, rubbing her wherever she wants, participating in her having an orgasm, and witnessing Husband 2's orgasm that was caused by his sexy wife.

What is the other lady doing while you have a MFM threesome with her husband? Making a snack?

Then switch, Husband 1 with wife 2. Wife 1 stays completely engaged, offering encouragement, lots of kissing, whatever additional play she wants to provide helping Wife 2 cum. Obviously Husband 2 can do whatever his wife wants him to do to her.

So you want to flow into a FFM threesome with wife 2. Will you give the other couple a chance for this as well? Will they also get an FFM?

Also, is this a super-selfish scenario to ask for?

Yes. Its selfish and unrealistic to map all this out without regard for anyone else. All this can happen in a swap as things flow and if there is good communication. But you can't dictate it to this degree.

We feel like communicating exactly what you want is the best way to get what you want, but is this too specific?

Yes. Way too specific.

Would people be like "Holy Shit, could we just fool around?" Thanks for your thoughts!

Just say you want a same room, full swap with lots of group action and taking turns making everyone the center of attention for part of the experience.