Me(38M) and my wife(30F) have been married for 10 years and have a great life together. We recently discovered we had this kink of being watched by other couples!

We have only done this once and it did not turn out as expected. We met an older couple in the bar and the conversation led on for months until we were ready to let them watch us. Some rules were in play where they could only watch us as we were newbies. No swapping. We then scheduled a weekend in a hotel out of town. Once we arrived, we awkwardly had small conversations before getting into action. My wife and i undressed after some foreplay and began to get on with it.

Suddenly, the man stood up, and came forward and asked to touch my wife, we agreed as we were pretty horny. One thing led to another and he eventually pulled his cock out asked my wife for a blowjob. My wife rejected it but eventually complied to give him a handjob. I immediately finished in her as it made me so horny. The man tried to have a turn with her but we were firm to reject his advances. He eventually nutted on my wife’s body. After some small talk, we parted ways.

Now, I guess my point is my wife and I are not ready for be full on swingers but have a kink for watching and touching respectfully.

How have others approached this in the past and where is the best place to go?