Hey all. I (32m) and my wife (28f) have always had an incredible sex life. I’ve never had a single session that wasn’t 10/10 amazing with her. We’ve been together 7 years and been married for 3. Before her, I was in a 9.5 year long abusive relationship where I was hit, threatened, insulted and cheated on repeatedly. Should’ve left earlier but didn’t know better and it left me with some traumas. For the first few years of this relationship I felt overly jealous at thoughts like these, and I can now attribute that to feeling insecure that my partner may leave me for another person if she sleeps with someone else. But over these 7 years I have fallen so far in love. The bond I share with my wife is unlike anything I’ve ever experienced. I trust her wholly. Not even a smidge of a doubt. And while I may honestly have fleeting stabs of jealousy if I think of her with someone bigger who’s great at sex (I’m not small myself but nobody is big enough for themselves), again, I have no doubt that she’s with me and I with her. Because of this trust, a few years back I opened up enough to try exploring kink. It was fun, but life got in the way sometimes. Que to this year. New years goal is to just let go and explore. And I did. We did. We share every single kink in common (and we have a lot!) , all but one. Therein I discovered I have a share kink. Hotwife kink? After a lot of internal dialogue I determined 2 reasons to why I like it.

1.) My wife is insanely gorgeous. Like perfect. And she’s really skilled. I get to show her off, which feels good to do, and also someone else being in pleasure because of my perfect wife feels amazing.

2.) I get off on my wife’s pleasure. Even when I’m consumed with my lust in the moment, it’s her pleasure that I love. I’ve learned her body intimately (as she has mine) and I love what we have. But I want to see her in even more pleasure. Add to that, I want her to feel absolutely craved and desired. I want her to have two people doing everything they could to make her feel incredible.

So we’ve been considering adding another to our play. We’re both bi, we’re looking for just 1 man, bi preferred but not needed. To reiterate, this is my kink. My wife does not have a share kink so I would not be playing with the other party at all. It would be me and the other man giving all our focus on her, or her pleasing him while I please her. We’ve established boundaries and hard limits, safe words, and discussed aftercare. I feel like I’m ready for this, but I don’t want to rush it. I want my wife to feel and know that this experience is because I love her and want her pleasure. My engulfment and pleasure from it is secondary. I want her to feel safe. This is our starting point. We’re brand new and would love any pointers or guidance. Thank you to whoever got this far. I appreciate your time!

-M&D