Context: We are friends with a couple and have now had a successful same room group hard swap. We know them pretty well at this point and are planning to do it again and start it out with a vanilla-esq outing to Hike and eat or Brewery or something. Maybe coffee also. Mostly in places where we are in public but nobody knows us and there aren't going to be a lot of people around.

Issue: My wife has suggested some teasing to build tension before we go back to the bedroom. But we aren't sure what ro do here. Everyone has already seen eachother naked. I'm still a little conflicted about swapped kissing and affection outside of the sex/bed room, but I'm willing to try it and think I would be okay with it as long as it's not 1 sided.

The girls are both bi-ish. The guys are (me)bi / (him) hetflexible. About equal in age and looks across the board. Lower-mid 30s age range.

The other thing is, I am a bit scared of unequal PDA. They are way more experienced than us swinging, but my wife and I are very kinky and exhibitionists, while they are a bit more reserved/vanilla.

Having another couple adds a whole new dynamic to this.

I don't think I could handle my wife all over him outside of the bedroom, unless his wife was all over me... it would feel unfair to me and I'd get too jealous to the point it would ruin it for me and cause ED.

I've talked to my wife about this and she is totally willing to hit the brakes and follow the other girls pace, maybe that is then answer? She could do that and focus on FF stuff (that all bi/str8 men get excited to see) so then it's not uneven teasing and the girls are effectively teasing us both?

But we would like to try to have as much fun as possible.

Or maybe in this case I will have to be the one to make some moves? But I dunno, the other guy has to make zero moves because my wife is proactive and LOVES to tease. She will do all the work and he just has to be a guy, which hebobviously enjoys it because what man wouldn't, I know I do.

That brings me to another thing...

I have been monogamous for 10 years prior to this. I don't know what moves to even make, let alone on another guys wife even if he's cool with it. He's coming over to the bi side somewhat but I don't know what to do about MM teasing either, especially when he is less comfy with it than I am.

I am also not sure how to communicate that to the other couple. We had a great time in bed. I think we can have a great time doing everything. But I am conflicted because I don't want to feel left out just because my wife and I are a bit more rambunctious.